Teenage dating in high school
Johnny may still ask Suzy to be his date, but only after the “group” has decided who will go with whom.
The group eats dinner together, poses for pictures together and attends the dance together. ’” What to watch for: Officially, it’s OK for kids who aren’t part of a large friend group to go with just a date or with another couple, and it’s OK for kids to go “stag.” Unofficially, there are unwritten rules that your teen knows might discourage him from attending even if he wants to.
Young teens have especially fragile egos, so negative peer feedback on social media can be especially damaging.
Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.
For instance, among Megan’s circle of about seven close girlfriends, only two have boyfriends.
“You never want the guy to think you’re going, ‘Oh, we’re dating, so I want you to meet them,’” Megan says.
“Maybe among the younger girls it’s more important to have a boyfriend, but as we’ve gotten older, it’s just not as important,” she says.
Parents should try to stay on top of who their child is talking to or dating, and why — especially with younger teens.
For high schoolers, it can mean that, too, but usually refers to making out at parties or get-togethers.
Kids hook up with people they’ve just met, casual acquaintances and even friends. Jennifer, when asked if hooking up with a guy meant a girl had a crush on him, says dismissively, “Nope.” And Megan concurs: “It would seem very strange to me that a girl would think there’s something there” after a hookup.
Even 14- and 15-year-olds can fall in love, Reardon says.